tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7364691791380861467.post4344828123460798651..comments2023-04-24T20:10:42.476-04:00Comments on Finding the Light among the Shadows: Unlocking the boxes...Awenyddhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08981951703672449806noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7364691791380861467.post-87432899738984439522014-10-13T00:03:48.067-04:002014-10-13T00:03:48.067-04:00The habit of driving away those who love us is an ...The habit of driving away those who love us is an old one. Most people who do it acquired the habit in young childhood, often when a parent or grandparent seemed to abandon us. Others learned it in youthful infatuation or young adulthood, when a beloved failed to live up to the promise we thought we saw. Or when, at any age, one we had long trusted abused that trust, violating our boundaries without our consent (though we might have felt we had to grant permission).<br /><br />This habit can be released; this ancient, devastating hurt can heal. Sometimes it helps to give the Inner Young One a teddy bear to hold, or a long strong hug to stand in, while the Adult Present-Day self offers reassurance.<br /><br />Because no matter what happened back then, you are more able to see clearly now than you were, and more able to care for yourself, and more able to trust fully and recover from the occasional errors that brings.<br /><br />It is a joyful ache to watch from this distance as you walk this part of the journey; or perhaps it is an aching joy. You are so beloved.Maggienoreply@blogger.com